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  • Tamara Payne

How to Talk to Anyone

I am frequently accused of being able to talk to anyone, anything - myself especially. While I'd like to say it comes natural all the time, the reality is that I have to work at it, just like many people. Some days I am "on" and connecting comes easy. Other days, I have to remind myself how to do it, to pump myself up before I go into a meeting, networking or any other kind of event.

One thing for sure is that I believe in the power of relationships. I thrive on people and being connected to others. I don't discriminate either. By this I mean, anyone is a good connection, even if they don't need my services. I believe that your next best connection is right around the corner's not about selling to them but creating a relationship that builds trust and could lead to potential mutual referrals. Sometimes, a connection becomes a best friend, a mentor or someone who needs mentoring. I am open when I meet someone. I try not to judge (not perfect at this) and to learn about who they are, not just what they do.

Leil Lowndes wrote a short and sweet book called, How to Talk to Anyone; 92 Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships. created a great summary of the book that includes:

Part 1: How to Intrigue Everyone Without Saying a Word: You Only Have Ten Seconds to Show You're a Somebody

Part 2: How to Know What to Say After You Say "Hi"

Part 3: How to Talk Like a VIP

Part 4: How to Be an Insider in Any Crowd; What Are They Talking About?

Part 5: How to Sound Like You're Peas in a Pod: "Why, We're Just Alike!"

Part 6: How to Differentiate the Power of Praise from the Folly of Flattery

Part 7: How to Direct Dial Their Hearts

Part 8: How to Work a Party Like a Politician Works a Room; The Politician's Six-Point Party Checklist

Part 9: How to Break the Most Treacherous Glass Ceiling of All: Sometimes People Are Tigers

About Me:

I am the Chief Connector and Co-Founder at Ensemble Coworking. I am proud to be one half of a dynamite team committed to making a difference in the entrepreneurial community in Fort Worth.

I am also a communications trainer and coach, helping business owners and professionals speak more clearly and concisely whether in person, on stage or online. If you long to own the room during a 60 second commercial or in front of an audience, then let's connect.

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